Key Facts (and Lies) for Online Dating in 2024
One of the biggest things we’ve seen and heard is how online dating for men becomes harder and harder.
To get laid on Tinder regularly, and to get dates, men need to know what’s what – pay attention to the truth, and cut through the clutter of the lies that are out there.
In this article, we’re going to take a look at some of the most important facts and lies that will maximize your results with dating apps.
Lie: You have to be a “Chad” to get laid.
We’ve discussed this one a lot. It’s gotten even worse as the black pill community has grown.
A lot of guys moan that only “Chads” get laid, or about why they’re too fat / ugly / old to get laid on Tinder. Truth is, we have tons of guys in our private Mastermind group who are fat / ugly / old who regularly pull good looking girls from dating apps.
But, photos do matter. Speaking of which…
Fact: You need good pictures.
These apps really are all about the pictures. Girls may read your bio if they’re on the fence with your pics, but without great Tinder profile pictures, you’re just not going to get many matches.
“Wait a second, you said I don’t have to be a Chad!” you may be saying right now.
That’s still true. The key with photos is to make yourself look as good as possible (without being catfish-y). That’s why even below average looking guys can get results on Tinder. Because guys who are more attractive than them have shitty pictures.
Of course, this advice has evolved over the years. You used to need a professional photo shoot. Nowadays, some good selfies plus a cell phone camera may be enough (if you do it right).
Lie: Never double text.
A lot of “gurus” will tell you never to double text a girl. Here’s why that advice is awful today…
Think about the last time you read a text message – and then forgot to reply. Happen recently?
I bet.
Now imagine being an attractive girl who’s using dating apps. You’re getting dozens of new messages from guys a day.
Think they might read a text and forget to reply?
Obviously.
The key is when you double text. A lot of guys send a text and overthink it / panic, so they send a second text right after. Or the girl doesn’t respond in a few hours, so they double text.
Double texts are saved for when a girl has had quite a while to reply, and she hasn’t. They also have to be not needy.
Fact: Text game matters.
The difference between beginner and intermediate text game can truly make a world of difference in your results. Let me give you some simple math to illustrate:
Let’s say you get 10 new matches a week, or 40 matches a month.
With beginner text game, maybe you get 5% of your matches out on dates. So, 1 in 20 matches turns into a date. With advanced text game, you might be able to up that to 1 in 10 matches, or 10%. That’s two more dates a week.
But it doesn’t end there. The hotter a girl is, the harder she’ll be to get out (she’s got a lot of male attention, after all). If you want to cut through the clutter, you’ll need to stand out… and that’s where text game comes in.
Even knowing how to handle flakes, deal with objections, and more is crucial to turning matches into dates. (That’s why we dedicate so much of The Ultimate Dating Blueprint 2.0 to these more advanced topics.)
Lie: Your looks don’t matter.
Ok, so just a few minutes ago, I told you that even fat / ugly guys can get laid. So what the hell?!
Let’s be real: Looks do matter. More attractive guys do get laid with more girls (and hotter girls).
Even less attractive guys can get laid. But it’ll take more work. You’ll get less girls. They may not be as hot.
The good news is, for 99% of men, your looks are mostly within your self control. If you’re a 5 out of 10 today, you could be a 6 out of 10 or a 7 out of 10 by hitting the gym, getting good fashion, etc.
Truth: Dating is a skill, and it takes work to improve.
I know a lot of guys want quick results from online dating, but the truth is, you’ve got to put some effort in to get the best results.
Like pretty much everything in life, dating is a skill.
The good news is: If you’re not getting the results you want, you’re probably a beginner, and that means there’s tons of room for improvement!
Even more good news: Between our YouTube, our free eBook, and so much more, we’ve made it much easier for you to learn and improve. Take advantage of our thousands of hours of hard learnings, so that you can improve more quickly.
Lie: Once she’s agreed to the date, you’re golden.
A lot of guys think that once a girl agrees to the date, their work is done (at least until they meet in person).
Then they go through the pain of girls not showing up, ghosting, arriving super late to the date, etc.
That’s because a lot of guys overlook a simple step: Confirming the date after it’s been set.
You should confirm the night before and the morning of the date.
It helps you avoid last minute flakes. It also helps because if the girl thinks you’re going to flake (which she may do if you don’t confirm), she’ll proactively flake to protect her ego.
Sending a message like, “Hey still good for tonight” is a quick and easy way to ensure she actually shows up.
Let These Key Dating Insights Guide You
When it comes to online dating, there can be a fine line between feeling stuck on a plateau and getting consistent results.
By understanding and internalizing these key facts about dating today, you’ll be in a position to get better results from dating apps this year – and beyond.
Remember, don’t let the fake “gurus” tell you what’s what, and don’t waste time making mistakes fruitlessly – our team at PWF has put in the hard work of testing across 10+ years and thousands of hours.
Hope you find it helpful!
– Indian “Truth Teller” PE
