The Best Tinder Opener In 2025
I was recently doing research on the best dating app openers in 2025 and discovered a gem. Here it is:
“Your dad would absolutely hate me”
It’s polarizing, but it definitely gets the girls attention… which is what you need nowadays to stand out from the hundreds of other guys messaging her. I think the biggest thing that makes it effective is that it invokes a lot of curiosity. The girl thinks “wait why would my dad hate him”
I sent this out to 10 different girls and pretty much all of them responded. At least 3 wound up agreeing to a date as well. Here is an example of some of my interactions using this opener
The key thing with this opener, is that girls are gonna challenge you afterwards so your game afterwards needs to be on point. This response was unexpected though. I answered back with a mix of empathy and humor.
In general, you want to avoid sad topics like this so i try moving the conversation in a different direction
Most likely the reason she is bringing up the 1am thing is because she is concerned i only see her as a late night last option. Even the most DTF girls, don’t want to be in this category. Fortunately, this concern is very easy to fix as you see here.
After I address it, I start moving things towards the meetup. She has been investing a decent amount into the convo so its time to go for the close. Note: on dating apps, your goal is to build investment from the girl, once that is accomplished you should move things towards the date.
At this point, she communicates that she is too broke to go out. This is also very easy to handle and gives you an excuse to invite the girl straight to your place. Once she agrees, i get her number as an extra layer of investment.
And bam, it can really be this easy. Here is another example with the same opener
This is a more common response that you will get to this opener. I respond by keeping it vague and changing the topic. Accents are an easy thing to start a convo about, because girls are alway interested in how they are perceived.
Here I qualify her a bit based on her accent. My advice is keep the qualifying at least somewhat genuine as otherwise the girl might think you’re bullshiting her. For me, a South African accent really is sexy.
Next, I start moving things towards the date. She is somewhat receptive, but also asks me an unrelated question, which implies she needs just a bit more comfort.
Here I shamelessly use my dog, to invoke good emotions in her. If you lack a dog, you can say you can say niece/nephew or friend’s dog. You get the point. Then i start moving things back towards the date, but in a more subtle way.
This time she is a bit more receptive. Also, since i don’t respond instantly, she double texts me an hour after her prior message. This is a really good sign and so i grab her number
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