How To Sexually Escalate With A Girl (Physical & Verbal)

In this guide, I’m gonna show you how to sexually escalate next time you are on a date with a cute girl. This includes both physical and verbal escalation, designed to help you master dating.

The 5 levels of verbal escalation

• ⁠  ⁠level 1: light hearted jokes with mild sexual innuendos – this is typically the first step. You want to test the waters by using humor. An example of this might be a girl telling you that her day was hard and you replying with “that’s what she said.”

• ⁠ ⁠⁠level 2: introducing sexual topics – now it’s time to make the convo a bit more serious. You want the transition from jokes to seem as smooth as possible. For example, this could include you saying something like “you really strike me as a type who prefers dominant men.” She will of course say “yes” since this is truism. And you might build on that to discuss turn ons and what not.

• ⁠ ⁠⁠level 3: you continue with level 1 and 2, but now you hint at something sexual/romantic between you and the girl. It is time to start using the “we frame.” For example, after the girl confirms that she likes the dominant man you could say something like “well it’s your lucky night then” or “that’s perfect, because I have a thing for submissive women. We are gonna have a lot of fun together”

• ⁠ ⁠level 4: becoming more explicit or direct – this one is not a must. You could easily just use the first three levels and then start physically escalating (explained below). An example of this might be saying something like “you have no idea all the things I wanna do to you right now.” Statements like this will continue to ratchet up the sexual tension to a whole new level.

• ⁠  ⁠⁠level 5: Bringing the girl back to your room – this can be used anytime after level 1. But essentially this is called logistical escalation. Getting a girl back to your room also adds to the sexual tension. The easiest way to do this is just to lead the girl to your room once some sexual tension is built or you can offer her massages or say you want to show her something. 

Pro tip – buy some BDSM items on Amazon like handcuffs or a paddle and have them laying on your counter in a very obvious place. Once a girl notices this, it’s gonna further add to the sexual tension and could provide a very easy path to sex.

5 levels of physical escalation

• ⁠ ⁠level 1: light touches on the arm or hand – this is probably the lightest form of physical escalation. You would casually touch her hand or arm for a few seconds. Try to do this during a point where it makes sense in the convo. For example, after a girl says something you like.

• ⁠ ⁠⁠level 2: closing proximity & sitting closer – you could argue that this is the first step instead but simply what we are doing is just getting a lot closer to the girl. This by itself adds lots of sexual tension. However, if a girl immediately sits further back then pause the escalation for a little bit and focus on building more comfort / attraction.

• ⁠  ⁠⁠level 3: light touches knee or parts of her leg – this is the same as level 1 but the location of your touch is her lower body. Your hand on a girl’s leg is definitely more sexual than your hand on her arm. This is why I recommend saving this for a 2nd or 3rd step.

• ⁠ ⁠⁠level 4: extended touches like rubbing her leg or keeping your hand there – this is the same as the previous step, except it don’t move your hand away after a few seconds. You would just carry out your conversation well gently rubbing the girl’s leg. This should be only used after at least level 1 of verbal escalation.

• ⁠ ⁠⁠level 5: running your hand through her hair – this is typically the final step before the make-out. You would just very lightly play with the girl’s hair. If you did everything else leaving up to this correctly then the girl’s eyes should light up. She might even try making out with you.

• ⁠ Final level – After that is time for the make-out. After a bit of that you would start slowly kissing down her neck and touching her lower back or ass. I would typically keep kissing down her body until I get to her tits.  For a lot of women this is a big turn on and you would suck on her nipples. After that you can put her hand on your dick or take her top off or push her up against the wall. Make her as horny as possible and she will be begging for sex.

Conclusion

Now you know the levels of verbal and physical escalation. Both of these can all be done simultaneously. You can do physical escalation while you are also verbally escalating. That’s the best approach. Also see this more as a general guide rather than a strict order. One of the most important things is to be able to feel the moment and improvise if necessary. 

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