How To Make A Girl Chase You Over Text

In this guide I am going to show you the art of making women chase you over text. You will see a real life example of how I was able to get a girl who was barely interested to start chasing me.

The backstory here is that I met this girl from cold approach at a bar, where we chatted for a bit. Here you can see her level of initial interest afterwards. Make sure you read until the end so you can see how i turned this around!

You can see she’s largely giving me one word answers and doesn’t seem that interested. I’m the one that’s having to pursue. If I want to actually get the date, then I need to flip this dynamic. In a situation like this where the girl is barely responding, getting a date is highly unlikely

I wound up running into her again about a year later, as I was out and about. We talked for maybe two minutes this time and I playfully teased her for disappearing on me, so we exchanged numbers again.

Here she sends me a screenshot joking about how she has me saved. So I decided to sneakily change her contact name to something funny, which is why I call her “girl who stalks me at redbar”. I want to create the frame that she’s the one pursuing me.

She initially resists my frame by saying “honey you wish”. Stuff like this is common. Most girls won’t jump into your frame and start chasing right away. I also don’t want to be too obvious about what i’m doing or create an argument so i respond with a bit of humor

However, afterwards I go back to establishing the chasing frame by saying I appreciate her efforts and she almost earned a date. She is once again resistant. Again, i don’t want to be obvious here and respond with something like:

“Yea you have to earn a date with me”.

Instead, I take a more subtle approach and say “confident, are we”. Getting her to potentially question her own assumption. Next, you can see some progress. She goes from assuming that i would always go out with her to asking me if that is the case

Here, I need to avoid coming off as insulting for why I might not go on a date with her. Yet, I also don’t want to play into her initial frame that I would go out with her no matter what. So I respond with a fairly vague answer.

Girls are always very curious how they are perceived to other people and she doesn’t fail to bite. I bait her a bit by responding with another vague answer “it’s actually pretty mixed”. This makes her want the answer even more.

Then, I send her a truism text. This is something that is likely to be true no matter what. I could send this text to a 100 girls and at least 90 would say it’s accurate. I am even more confident about my assessment based on our exchange.

Reading a girl, if done right can be very powerful. You can see she is now double texting me, which is a lot of progress. In addition the text “what are you doing awake”, could suggest that she is potentially thinking about meeting up with me that night.

At this point you can see she is investing a lot more into the convo than myself. I am just responding with trollish texts and teasing her, which is causing her to chase even more (this only works because i established value previously).

There is nothing more attractive to women than a man who isn’t thirsty and just “doesn’t give a fuck”. My jesus is watching you masturbate meme is a perfect example of this.

She sends me a video of herself and I respond with a fairly basic text. Again, I am trying to pull back and give her room to chase. And, it is working. The dynamic has definitely flipped. Now, that i got her chasing, i need to capitalize on it by setting up a date

I keep texting in a very laid back fashion and continue leaving room for her to chase. Then, I move things towards the date and she is receptive. You can see she is actively trying to make the logistics work which is a great sign (if you were the one chasing, you most likely would not have this)

I wanted to include this screenshot as well to show how full circle we have come. This was maybe 3-4 screenshots after the previous one. Getting a girl to chase is good. But, getting a girl to chase in regards to sex is the best.

The frame here is perfect. She is going to “persuade” me to like sex. That is EXACTLY what you want. She eventually comes over and we hook up. I built so much investment over text that not much effort is required in real life.

Conclusion

In general, if you can just get girls to chase you, then every other element of the game will become much easier. You can apply these same techniques in person and have the girl chase you on the date. It’s about establishing some value and then asking good questions, playing coy, and creating space for her to invest more & more

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