Handling Objections Over Text: A Complete Guide

“I don’t do hookups.” “I don’t know you well enough to sleep with you.” “I’m not coming to your home.”

Objections like these are inevitable when you’re doing online game. In this guide, we are going to go through how to handle these objections – which, when done correctly, will skyrocket your online dating results. Objection handling originates as a sales technique but applies perfectly well when you’re trying to interact with a woman.

The focus of this article will be objections that come up from online dating – which is different than cold approach objection handling because, with online, you have time to think of how the phrasing should be.

You need to look at objections as a mere hiccup when you’re moving the interaction forward. But the key is handling them well. If you handle them well, you can be well on your way to sexy time. If you handle them poorly, the girl might ghost you.

Dos and Don’ts of Objection Handling

First, let’s go through the Dont’s and Do’s for objection handling.

What are the things you should NOT do when an Objection presents itself:

As disinterest: Girls always give objections to not come across as easy or a low hanging fruit. Simply because they are very aware of how they want to be perceived. So, you should never take it personally.
Left unhandled: An objection needs to be handled at early stages because if you don’t, you might be perceived as having lesser social intelligence or, the objection keeps strengthening in her head
Pushy: When a girl gives an objection, you don’t get pushy, or TRY convincing her. That will have the opposite effect and most definitely will make you lose the lead

Do’s:

A problem with a solution: Treat it solely as a hiccup/problem and you’re going to come up with a solution you both can agree upon
Societal prejudice: Girls give objections because they are ashamed of what society might think of them or they are afraid to be perceived as a common town whore. So, you’d need to understand that she is trying to not be seen “easy”
No agenda: When you are trying to handle an objection, you need to first come from a place of empathy. So, you need to show a lot of understanding and the girl shouldn’t feel like you’re doing this because you are really wanting a certain outcome desperately

Example of Objection Handling

Keeping these in mind, I’d like to go through one amazing example where I turned around a girl who did not want to come over.

Takeaways:

This was a lead from an online dating app. Needless to say we never met each other in person before this.
She actually messages me the same day of the potential meet asking if it was possible to meet in 1.5 hours. I then go for the classic pwf wine close. She instantly throws an objection of “I’m not going to your place”
Over here, most guys will instantly see this as disinterest and they will either not respond or just lash out like a regular red piller who hates women (allegedly)
I ask if she has a “stranger danger”?. I am trying to dig deep into her objection. Once i know what the problem is, I’ll come up with a solution
She then tells me “it’s disrespectful”. Again, over here a lot of guys will start to get desperate, riled up and pushy.
You need to understand why she is saying this. Does she feel ashamed/judged about coming over?
She then proceeds to say “she is not a prostitute”. Now, we know her problem. We know that the reason could just be that I treat her as a sex object that I just want to quickly fuck.
No girl wants to come across “easy”. So, I show her empathy first by saying that I didn’t mean to make her feel disrespected. And I also take advantage of the fact that she gave me almost no notice for the meeting.
I told her that I was quite tired after working all day, hence I suggested going straight to the house. That lets her know that I’m typically not doing that with every girl. I also never mentioned anything about sex with her
So, it doesn’t make sense to think in those terms anyway. So, I use that logical loophole for why she is thinking that way.
I then proceeded to steal the frame from her by saying that we wouldn’t have sex unless I decided we did (after making sure we had chemistry). This also disqualifies the sex in a way that’s beneficial to you because now she might be the one chasing for it
After giving her such logically sound points, she can feel that I’m socially intelligent. The solution I presented to her doesn’t seem bad at all. She comes over!

Conclusion:

Objection handling should be treated as boss fights in a video game. After practicing getting these objections with girls, it will become second nature for you since you will have more way to address a single problem.

Lastly, you must also discern whether the objection is playful or if she genuinely has a concern. When the objection is playful, then by addressing it, you might actually give that frame strength, and that will soon become a reality.

Hope that helps,

Indian “Handle that objection” PE.