How to Turn a Tinder Hookup into Your Fuckbuddy

Special post by John Anthony

In this article, I’m going to talk about the techniques I use to keep a girl around after we have sex the first time. If your goal isn’t just casual hookups (such as Tinder hookups or one night stands), but to keep girls around as fuckbuddies, then this article is for you.

1. I don’t usually do qualification, but to set the fuckbuddy frame, it’s good to show them you appreciate them non-sexually. I say feel-good statements like: “I have really high standards and am really picky, but you meet most of them thankfully. I usually only want to see about 5% of girls again that I go on dates with but I can tell we are going to hang out a lot. I feel a special connection between us, iIfeel like you “get me”, it’s hard to describe, but it’s awesome. I really like that you’re [non-physical appreciation a/b/c/d/e]”.

2. Make explicit anti-one night stand statements. “I don’t like cheap one night stands. I’m not necessarily looking for a girlfriend right away either but i don’t want this to feel like a cheap one-time thing”. I have an advanced friend that will even say this in the moment right before he’s about to put it in for the first time which makes them commit/invest into the fuckbuddy frame.

3. Follow the magic rule of 3 separate fucks before they are invested/committed enough to be on rotation. this is really key. i talked to a lot of guys good with rotation and they all agreed on this. a common mistake guys make is that they think that after banging the girl one time that she is now a regular. treat hangout/bang #2 and #3 just like you did your day 2 except you have more inside jokes and you two are more comfortable. a good sequence of the 3 dates/bangs is #1: casual coffee or drinks. #2: something fun like dave and busters arcade or comedy show. #3: romantic sit-down dinner (i usually do italian food with red wine). this allows her to experience different parts of you including a romantic part. it also builds a whole bunch of rich investment.

4. Related to #3, get in the 3 dates as fast as possible. you are constantly battling against investment dropping and the girl going cold before you hit that magic number of 3 smashes. the sooner you get the 3 out of the way the better. if they’re super busy or have to travel everything can go to shit before you get in bang #2 and #3. what i’ve been doing recently is having them sleep over after an awesome day 2 then doing breakfast in the morning. that makes it like you’re getting 2 out of the way at once. then you can set a dinner for a couple days later. boom. new rotation girl really quickly. or you can do marathon hangouts. i did a 24 hour date the other day that included multiple meals out, beach, movie, sleepover, walking around in public, etc. that basically hard locked her on rotation instantly.

5. Related to #3, you want to be setting up the “next hangout” before the current hangout is over. that means that towards the end you should suggest the next activity and find out her schedule. this seeds the next hangout (day 3) and sets the frame (just like you did in the initial set to frame the day 2). much easier to do this in person than starting from scratch over text later.

6. Treat her like a princess without being a pussy. genuinely care about her life and things she is telling you. if you are emotionally distant/apathetic she will pick up on it and think you are just there for sex. credit Jason James for helping me realize you can’t go robot mode all the time on these girls and treat them like pieces of meat cuz they’ll feel used and bounce out.

7. Do not become overneedy. this means do not overtext. make her contribute to the text conversation. setting plans for the “next hangout” during the previous hangout helps a lot with this. because her vibe/buying temp are solid in person, you have less legwork to do over text to get her to meet up

8. Keep her warm with memes, asking how her day is/how she is, or texting her pictures or things you are doing

9. See her once a week. any less than this makes her grow distant/cold. any more and you and/or her are going to start catching feelings which leads to jealousy, her wanting to be your girlfriend, and a host of other problems.

10. And yes of course, as others said, fuck the living daylights out of her. i’m extremely good at sex after 500 lays. i have a technique i do with both hands that is a combo of g-spot stimulation plus clit stimulation that makes girls come usually in 7-8 seconds after zero foreplay. like literally nothing to orgasm in 7-8 seconds. then i relish in the glory and get them to call me a god and shit like that. i have used a stopwatch with multiple girls and they almost all crack before the 10 second mark with this technique. the last girl said it felt like she was being electrocuted and didn’t realize that was humanly possible. this technique alone hooks them. another thing i’ve been doing is to ask them what the most they’ve orgasm’d in one session is. then i make sure i beat it. of course you have to be good at sex to do this but i really play it up and be like, damn where are you gonna come for all your sex needs in the future 😉 i’m the current record holder after all.

11. This was discussed in a different thread but if the chick starts trying to boyfriend you up, there are a variety of strategies. my personal favorite is to tell her that i’m either too busy with work (100% false) or that i’m not over my last LTR and it wouldn’t be fair to her. this goes on forever. people like Jason James tell his whole rotation about each other and tells them it won’t get serious. i don’t like this strategy. i prefer the don’t ask don’t tell and then using BS reasons to hold off the boyfriend bullshit.

12. Related to my working volume post, you should be going on new dates all the time and have new leads coming in all the time. you can replace girls on rotation with hotter, cooler girls. or if a girl becomes too much headache, is too much maintenance, becomes boring or annoying, etc. also, and you won’t appreciate this until you experience it, but a girl who starts off as a 9 drifts into 8 and then 7.5 territory over time after you’ve fucked her tons of times and her personality becomes predictable. so don’t be afraid to next any ho for whatever reason you see fit by replacing her with a new one. this is true abundance. it’s a rough life bein a god 😉

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