How To Have Sex On The First Date
In this guide, i’m going to show you how to get laid on the first date. You will learn the 5 crucial tips that are designed to help you have sex on the date. As well as the common mistakes guys are making which are causing them to strike out.
1) Set the right vibe/frame – You want to show that you are a dominant sexual man from the start and create a fun and flirty vibe. But the biggest thing, is to build sexual tension.
For cold approach (especially during the daytime), I do this more implicitly. I rarely make very blatant sexual remarks or try to be all over her. Instead, I am more implicit and suggestive. I build sexual tension by holding very strong eye contact, having a solid body language, slowing down my speech, and sexual innuendos. At the same time, I keep the vibe very fun and flirty, positioning myself as a potential lover.
On dating apps, you can be much more explicit and I do that sometimes. However, the majority of the time it is not necessary. I find its best to take a middle approach. Use sexual innuendos and light statements of intent, while giving yourself just enough plausible deniability to avoid the “you just want sex” objection. Here is an example that demonstrates this
Most guys don’t do this though, they are super platonic and avoid taking any social risks because they either don’t want to loose the girl or are worried about coming off as a creep. This often results in either the girl getting bored or a platonic date where nothing happens.
2) Screening the girl– This very much bleeds into vibing. On tinder, I used to screen very explicitly, by asking a girl “What are you looking for on here?” after getting investment from her. This is by no means a bad strategy and is how a lot of my earlier LRs went down (only use if you have at least a semi-sexual profile).
However, nowadays, I prefer to screen more implicitly throughout the whole interaction. Also, like with cold approach leads, there is an additional level of screening that takes place when I go to setup the date and invite her straight to my “romantic balcony:
3) Setting up the date – This is a small, but extremely crucial step to get right. You want to avoid dates that have a lower probability of resulting in sex. This is things like: food dates, activity dates, group dates, and any date where the logistics aren’t optimal.
Personally, I will only do 4 types of first dates: Straight to my place, straight to her place, a bar walking distance to my place, or a walk near my place. That’s it. I save the funky activity dates for after I banged the girl and she becomes my booty call
Regardless of whether this was a cold approach lead or a tinder lead, the vast majority of time my first date proposal is inviting the girls straight over. Typically, I will say “To split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio” to take some of the pressure off. If you follow everything I’ve outlined so far, you will generally get 3 types of responses
- Compliance – You’d be surprised at how many girls will agree to come straight over, if you created the right vibe from the start. Some might have a concern that needs to be addressed first (safety, no expectations, etc.) Then, if you properly address these concerns, they will agree. These will on average be the most DTF girls. About 50% of the girls that I meet wind up coming straight over on the first date (including the ones I meet from cold approach).
- Request to meet in public – These are the chicks who will want to meet in public first. I will then simply just propose a bar that is a short walk from my place. And, the majority of the time, they will thank me for being understanding. That is because I was very congruent from the start and me inviting them straight over is something they expected. In their minds, I’m not a “nice guy” who is trying to “pull one over on them” and thus they are pleased that I am totally cool about meeting them at a bar first. These chicks are also typically dtf, but aren’t as “sold” yet.
- Outrage – These are the girls who will get butthurt because you invited them straight over. Now, if you have followed my advice from the start, this should rarely happen. However, a few will occasionally slip through the cracks. Fortunately, by inviting them straight over, you’re screening out the girls who very likely would have been a waste of your time
Pro Tip: NEVER agree to do halfway dates. They are typically a giant waste of time. And, quite often by holding your frame, some girls who initially insisted on meeting halfway will agree to meeting at near your place. Here is an example of a love report where this happened:
4) Preparing for the date – This is also very important and a lot of this should be common sense that is unfortunately sometimes ignored. First off, you want to clean your place. Seeing trash everywhere will turn off most chicks. You don’t have to go crazy, just tidy your place up a bit. Secondly, you want to clean yourself. Take a shower and put on deodorant before your date. Nothing turns a girl off like body odor, so don’t be that guy
Thirdly, have some chill music playing in the background. Believe it or not, this makes a difference. Some good background music has a strong subconscious effect and will reduce the awkwardness of meeting a stranger (if a chick is particularly shy or tense, I will actually ask her what her favorite type of music is and then put it on. This works really well and subconsciously creates instant comfort for her)
Last but not least, have a variety of alcohol. Personally, I will have wine, vodka and tequila. No, I’m not trying to get the girl drunk but, I know that just by having a drink in her hand will help her subconsciously relax and take the some pressure off. Most girls want to be able to say something like “Yeah, you know we had a few drinks and one thing lead to another” So, I try to give her that opportunity. Now, if you’re one of those people who doesn’t like to drink, you can just have a sip or 2 of whatever you poured yourself. She’s not going to be watching exactly how much you drink
Pro tip: Have a few sex toys on your bedroom night stand. Typically, I will put my hitachi magic wand ( A must buy) and a pair of handcuffs. I like to do this, because when the chick sees the toys, she will almost always get intrigued and the conversation will rapidly turn sexual. This may seem intimidating for some but I have been doing this 2 years now and never once had it backfire
5) The date – I have a full section dedicated to this in my course (link in the bottom), covering everything from first impressions, to handling LMR, to maximizing your retention after sex, and much more. But, let me give you a few tips.
Whether you meet the girl at a bar or at your place, you want to maintain the vibe I talked about from the start. Give her a confident hug and keep things fun and flirty. Upon entering, I will offer her a drink and either lead her on my balcony or sit on the couch in the living room (positioning her to sit next to me). For the first few minutes, I am always very laid back and give her a chance to get comfortable with the new surroundings. Once I sense that she is, then I smoothly start escalating.
There is no exact sequence you need to follow, just be smooth and gradual. Start with something small, like a hand on her knee if you’re sitting or hand on her hip if you’re standing. Then position your body closer to her, whispering in her ear or brushing her hair past her ear, then lightly kissing her neck, then making out, then kissing down her body.. You get the picture.
The key thing to keep in mind is that she is very likely at your place for a reason. It’s your game to lose, but as long as you make her feel comfortable, build sexual tension, and escalate properly you will very likely hook up.
There are also a bunch of other things you can do along the way, like the infamous massage routine that we talk about in the course. This is basically where you get her so horny that she’s begging you for sex. There are many other techniques as well that we reveal.
